What Moms Need in the Early Years - (Hint: It’s Not More Advice)

If you're a mom of a young child, chances are you've been on the receiving end of a lot of advice - some of it helpful, much of it unsolicited. Whether it's how to get your baby to sleep, how to handle a toddler tantrum, or how to "enjoy every moment" (while you're running on four hours of broken sleep), advice seems to follow moms everywhere. 

And while some tips can be useful, most moms I work with aren’t lacking in information. They’re lacking in support.

They’re missing spaces where they can be honest about how hard this is without being judged.
They’re craving connection with others who get it.
They’re longing to feel like themselves again, in a season that so often leaves them depleted, overstimulated, and invisible.

What Moms Really Need:

🌍 To be recognized for the work of mothering. Too often, the emotional labor, caregiving, and unpaid work of motherhood is dismissed or minimized. A 2023 report by Skylight and The Harris Poll found that if parents were compensated for managing the mental load alone, it would amount to $3.8 trillion in economic value annually in the U.S. And that figure doesn’t even include the actual hours spent on physical caregiving or domestic tasks. What moms really need is cultural recognition that this work matters and is worthy of support, resources, and respect. is dismissed or minimized. What moms really need is cultural recognition that this work matters and is worthy of support, resources, and respect.

💬 To be heard, not fixed.
Sometimes, we don’t need a list of solutions—we just need someone to say, “Me too.”

👭 To feel connected, not compared.
The early years of parenting can be incredibly isolating, even if you're surrounded by other people. Social media often adds to the pressure by highlighting everyone else's best moments. What we need is real connection, not curated perfection.

🧠 To process their experience.
Motherhood brings up so much - identity shifts, relationship changes, grief, joy, overwhelm. Having a safe space to sort through those feelings isn’t a luxury. It’s a necessity.

❤️To reconnect with who they are beyond “mom”.
Moms need space to talk about themselves—their interests, passions, desires, and dreams.Not just the logistics of parenting or the needs of everyone around them, but the parts of themselves that often get buried under snack requests and bedtime routines. That version of you still matters and she deserves airtime, too.

🤣 To share the weight and the laughter
Amid the mess and mental load, moments of joy still break through. Sharing honestly with other moms can bring relief, perspective and yes, even laughter.

A New Kind of Support

That’s why I’m offering a new therapy group for moms of young children, starting this fall at Natural Resources in San Francisco. It’s called:

Surviving Modern Motherhood: The Early Years Edition 

This group is designed to be a supportive, confidential space for moms in the thick of the early years. Together, we’ll talk about the mental load, overstimulation, identity loss, and the emotional rollercoaster that is parenting young children, all with support from a licensed therapist (and fellow mom).

We’ll explore tools for managing stress, setting boundaries, and reconnecting with the parts of yourself that may have been buried in the daily demands of motherhood. And yes, we’ll make space for joy because when moms feel truly supported, laughter often finds its way in.

If this season of life feels hard, you’re not doing it wrong,you’re just doing it without enough support. Let’s change that.

📍 6-Week Group begins Friday, October 3rd
📍 In-person at Natural Resources, San Francisco
🕒 Time: 11:00 am - 12:30 pm
📩 Learn more and sign up here